Obligender



Contributions by: Rust&Stardust

Definitions and Usage
Obligender is defined as one partially identifying with their AGAB (AKA DGAB) because of abuse and coercion. If the abuse did not occur, the individual would not feel that connection, and would completely be an other gender. An obligender AFAB (or oblifeminine) individual, for example, may be neutrois, but because of brainwashing, there is an unignorable tie to femininity and femalehood, or an intersex individual, after being surgically altered, being coerced into identifying as their "new" sex. It comes from "obligation".

The coiner has this comment to add:

'' “I should make it known right now before all the 'anti special snowflake' assholes come out of the woodwork, that I, the one who originally saw the need for this term, am a trauma victim who believes that this term will help other trauma victims who are trying to make sense of how their abuse and their gender identity intersect. Specifically, I am a CAFAB demigirl who feels like I would be fully agender if it weren’t for my past religious abuse. Please be considerate of that." ''

Related Terms
Obligender falls under the neurogender umbrella with other trauma-related genders, like aclarus or lazuligender. The specifically-male version is oblimasculine, and the specifically-female version is oblifeminine.

Flags
According to the designer, the white represents the gender the individual was coerced into being. It can be filled in with another color — typically blue or pink — to better communicate one's experiences. The yellow is for self-discovery and healing, as well as being a gender-neutral color. Trauma caused gender uncertainty is represented in the black stripes.